It pays to play to your strengths. 💪🏈 _______ P.S. You can watch my LinkedIn Learning Course: ‘Nano Tips to Uncover your Strengths’ for free through the link in my profile. #weaknesses #strengths #performance | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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It pays to play to your strengths. 💪🏈 _______ P.S. You can watch my LinkedIn Learning Course: ‘Nano Tips to Uncover your Strengths’ for free through the link in my profile. #weaknesses #strengths #performance | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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The Fastest Way to Build Unshakable Confidence | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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50 years of research. Thousands of papers. Summarized into 7 enduring principles of influence, each backed by landmark studies and world-leading researchers. 1. Reciprocity works. People are more likely to say yes when you offer something first. Referenced in: Dennis Regan’s classic 1971 study on reciprocity and compliance. 2. Social proof drives behavior. We look to others to decide what’s safe, credible, or desirable. Referenced in: Solomon Asch’s conformity experiments Robert Cialdini’s socia
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50 years of research. Thousands of papers. Summarized into 7 enduring principles of influence, each backed by landmark studies and world-leading researchers. 1. Reciprocity works. People are more likely to say yes when you offer something first. Referenced in: Dennis Regan’s classic 1971 study on reciprocity and compliance. 2. Social proof drives behavior. We look to others to decide what’s safe, credible, or desirable. Referenced in: Solomon Asch’s conformity experiments Robert Cialdini’s socia
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Failure teaches you more than success, but only if you stop long enough to ask, “What’s the lesson here?” Make it count. | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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Failure teaches you more than success, but only if you stop long enough to ask, “What’s the lesson here?” Make it count. | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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Your brain decides what’s possible before you do. It filters reality through past experience and learned expectations, which is why small actions, repeated consistently, are what actually rewire confidence. That’s how Big Trust is built… by showing up. _______ >> 6 days until publication in the US! That means there’s only 6 days left to pre-order your copy of Bog Trust if you want the bonuses. That’s 9 hours of exclusive masterclasses, training, resources and a seat in my private community. I do
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Your brain decides what’s possible before you do. It filters reality through past experience and learned expectations, which is why small actions, repeated consistently, are what actually rewire confidence. That’s how Big Trust is built… by showing up. _______ >> 6 days until publication in the US! That means there’s only 6 days left to pre-order your copy of Bog Trust if you want the bonuses. That’s 9 hours of exclusive masterclasses, training, resources and a seat in my private community. I do
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Self-doubt grows when you focus on outcomes instead of actions. That’s exactly what came up in this conversation with Lucy. Lucy started her book club @lucysbookclub in 2023 to create a safe, welcoming space for people who are a bit bookish and want to connect with other like-minded readers. She runs monthly book club events and regularly hosts authors, interviewing them about their books. From the outside, she’s already doing the thing. But her self-doubt showed up around her own creativity, es
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Self-doubt grows when you focus on outcomes instead of actions. That’s exactly what came up in this conversation with Lucy. Lucy started her book club @lucysbookclub in 2023 to create a safe, welcoming space for people who are a bit bookish and want to connect with other like-minded readers. She runs monthly book club events and regularly hosts authors, interviewing them about their books. From the outside, she’s already doing the thing. But her self-doubt showed up around her own creativity, es
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Perfectionism often shows up as discipline or high standards, but underneath it is a very human instinct: self-protection. When the brain keeps delaying action to avoid judgment, failure, rejection or disappointment, confidence never gets trained. Rewriting the same email, post, or slide deck feels productive, yet growth only happens once something is released into the world. So, don’t focus on how to make something better, focus on the smallest imperfect version you could put out today. Done is
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If you don’t feel ‘enough’ and struggle with worthiness, it can show up in one of 4 ways: 1. Pressure to Prove 2. Shrinking Syndrome 3. Schadenfreude Cycle 4. Endless Need for Approval These themes came up in my recent conversation with Jay Shetty on the @jayshettypodcast , where we explored research from my upcoming book, Big Trust. The first attribute of Big Trust is Acceptance. It begins forming in our earliest years and is reinforced by every experience we have after that. When Acceptance is
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Once you understand this, everything changes. Perception isn’t reality, it’s an educated guess at best. Your brain fills in gaps using past experience, emotion, and expectation. That’s why the same words can land differently, and why your reactions shift when you’re stressed or tired. Your brain’s job isn’t to be a curate, it’s to protect you. Once you know that, do this: Pause. Name what you’re feeling. Ask what else could be true. Then choose your response instead of letting your brain choose
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If you don’t feel ‘enough’ and struggle with worthiness, it can show up in one of 4 ways. 1. Pressure to Prove 2. Shrinking Syndrome 3. Schadenfreude Cycle 4. Endless Need for Approval I share more in my book, Big Trust - you can pre-order it now and get some amazing exclusive bonuses: https://www.shadezahrai.com/bigtrust This snippet is from my recently conversation with Jay Shetty on his podcast where we dive into many of the themes from Big Trust- you can watch the full episode on your favour
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Regret serves no purpose… unless you do something with it. Learn from the past. Take the lesson. Then turn it into momentum. Every regret is just a breadcrumb pointing you toward who you actually want to be - if you’re willing to follow it. P.S. What’s your greatest regret, and what did it teach you? | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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Do this for 1 minute and you’ll have better articulation. ‪@Dr.ShadeZahrai‬
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Lower your standards! Hear me out… ‪@Dr.ShadeZahrai‬
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Play changes your brain. When something feels low-stakes and playful, stress drops and learning speeds up. Small, daily moments of lighthearted play, just for the fun of it (think doodling, trying a hobby, doing something badly on purpose), train your brain to get more comfortable with trying, taking risks and exploring. A notebook and a messy doodle often do the trick for me. And yes, the bass guitar is still on my “it’s happening soon” list… maybe saying it here will finally nudge it into acti
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Motivation doesn’t create action; action creates motivation. We like to think we need to feel “ready” before we start, but in reality, getting started is what makes us feel ready. Momentum builds from movement. So stop waiting for motivation to magically appear. Take one small action, and let that action fuel the next. | Dr. Shadé Zahrai
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I’m a researcher, with a PhD. Here’s everything I’ve learned about self-doubt over the past 5 years – in under 50 seconds: 1. Most worries never come true. Your brain imagines worst-case scenarios to protect you - but that doesn’t make them real. 2 To stop overthinking, separate yourself from the thought and the feeling. You are not your thoughts. Emotions are visitors…let them come and go. 3. Repeat something often enough and you’ll believe it. Change your self-talk, and you rewire your brain f
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Struggling with negative thoughts? WATCH THIS…✨⁣⁣ During times of uncertainty (hello 2021 - and basically all of 2020 for that matter!), it’s all too easy to become consumed by negative thinking patterns. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ As humans we have a negativity bias which is a cognitive distortion that leads us to pay more attention to negative stimuli and become consumed by negative things (including things that originate in our minds)…⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And when this happens, it can become really challenging to know what to d
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Why is our culture so obsessed with achievement & goals?? 🤔 ⁣ ⁣ So tell me if this sounds familiar…⁣ You set a goal, work really hard to achieve the goal, get there, and then think, “what next??”⁣ No fulfilment.⁣ No satisfaction. ⁣ Just immediately on to the next one…⁣ ⁣ The unfulfilling treadmill of ‘Achievement Addiction’.⁣ ⁣ But as we all know too well (and of course the research confirms), an achievement orientation doesn’t lead to happiness, fulfilment or satisfaction in life. ⁣ ⁣ It’s abo
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When it comes to how we communicate, we so often default to habitual ways to replying, without being aware of the impact it has on others.⁣ Something many of us use when replying to someone who tells us something we already know is, “I KNOW…”⁣ But replying with “I Know” (even though it could be entirely true) can do more harm than good.⁣ A simple tip is to replace “I know” with “that’s right”. ⁣This way, you can build on the conversation, justify your course of action (if that helps, e.g. at wor
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